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Reclaim Your Personal Life on Valentine’s Day – and Every Day

Feb 14, 2017


Lois Frankel’s New York Times, Wall Street Journal, and Business Week bestseller, Nice Girls Don’t Get the Corner Office, writes that we shouldn’t make work our life.

She goes on to say that we owe our employer an honest day’s work for an honest day’s pay.  We owe our employer a reasonable amount of overtime, with or without pay, and always without complaint.  But we don’t owe our employer our soul.

If you find you’re giving up what’s important to you for the sake of your job, Lois says that in her experience, it’s either because we have nothing to go home to or we don’t want to deal with what we have to go home to.  Like other “isms,” workaholism can be a way to avoid other things.

Having things to do and people you want to be with outside of work will help you stay focussed and productive. 

It’s not true that we have to give up our life in order to have a successful life.

Here are Lois’ four tips to reclaim your personal life from your work:

1.   Think hard before you cancel personal plans because you’re asked to or because you’re snowed under with work.  Weigh the rewards with the risks when you do this.  There are times when you’ll need to cancel, but if these are the rule, rather than the exception, there’s something wrong with this picture.

2.   Don’t ever cancel plans with your children because of a request at work unless your job is at risk.  Even then, think about it.  You don’t want to risk losing your job for financial reasons, but you might want to ask yourself whether you’d be better off at a job where family values are more supported.

3.   Develop hobbies and interests outside of work.  If you don’t have a reason to leave work, create one.

4.   What do you want to have written on your tombstone?  Now just go do it!

Live Your Life and Make Your Difference. 

Warmest wishes


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